β Scribed by Sonja Falck
No coin nor oath required. For personal study only.
In Living with Extreme Intelligence: Developing Essential Communication Skills, Dr Sonja Falck provides a unique and practical manual of how to improve interpersonal interactions that involve adults who stand out from the neurotypical majority by having top 2% IQ. Her main message is that understanding the individual differences involved in extreme intelligence and mastering relevant communication skills can break through barriers of frustration, underachievement, and loneliness, to bring about brain-changingly positive conversations and interpersonal effectiveness, connection, and joy.
Dr Falck begins by explaining the neurophysiological and social foundations of why we communicate the way we do, and then explains in detail seven essential communication skills. Following this, she shows how to put these skills into practice, applying insights from depth psychology and demonstrating how to have better conversations in a variety of contexts from general social gatherings to the workplace and intimate relationships.
Particular attention is paid to areas that Dr Falckβs research and professional practice have repeatedly shown her are challenging for adults with extreme intelligence, such as small talk, office politics, dating, and handling conflict. She draws on case examples from her consulting work (psychotherapy and coaching) with clients who have extreme intelligence, and examples from novels, cinema, the media, the literature on giftedness, and biographical material on high-profile high-IQ figures like Steve Jobs, Elon Musk and Lady Gaga. Throughout she emphasizes the theme from her original model of interpersonal relating, which is that experiencing freedom of self-expression with others who offer you a high level of acceptance is what puts you in a state of thriving.
The book provides step-by-step guidance for engaging in numerous interpersonal situations, such as how to handle difficult conversations, how to write effective emails, how to breathe, listen, play, take a risk, bond, repair a broken connection, and keep yourself well through changes like failure, success, and falling in love. It is essential reading for anyone affected by, or interested in, issues associated with extremely high intelligence.
Cover
Half Title
Title
Copyright
Dedication
Table of Contents
βDo try this at homeβ β list of end-of-chapter boxouts
List of Illustrations
Preface
Acknowledgements
Introduction
PART I Foundations: The fundamentals involved in basic and more advanced communication
1 All people seek safety and connection (why we communicate the way we do)
2 The barristerβs case
3 Playing the game
PART II Skills: Seven essential communication skills
4 Explaining the seven essential communication skills
5 Going deeper: elaborating the top three of the seven skills
PART III Practice: How to have better conversations
6 General conversation (including small talk)
7 Difficult conversations (including conflict resolution)
8 Intimate conversation (including dating and romance)
9 Occupational conversation (including office politics)
10 Dealing with change (including gaining success)
Concluding comments
Index
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