When a painful loss or life-shattering event upends your world, here is the first thing to know: there is nothing wrong with grief. βGrief is simply love in its most wild and painful form,β says Megan Devine. βIt is a natural and sane response to loss.β So why does our culture treat grief like a disease to be cured as quickly as possible?
InΒ Itβs OK That Youβre Not OK, Devine offers a profound new approach to both the experience of grief and the way we try to help others who have endured tragedy. Having experienced grief from both sides - as both a therapist and as a woman who witnessed the accidental drowning of her beloved partner - Devine writes with deep insight about the unspoken truths of loss, love, and healing. She debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, βhappyβ life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it.Β
Many people who have suffered a loss feel judged, dismissed, and misunderstood by a culture that wants to βsolveβ grief. Devine writes, βGrief no more needs a solution than love needs a solution.β Through stories, research, life tips, and creative and mindfulness-based practices, she offers a unique guide through an experience we all must face - in our personal lives, in the lives of those we love, and in the wider world.
ItβsΒ OK That Youβre Not OKΒ is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves - and each other - better.Β