In this empowering, accessible guide, Jaclyn Friedmanโco-editor of Yes Means Yesโgives young women the tools to decipher the modern worldโs confusing, hypersexualized, sometimes dangerous landscape so they can define their own sexual identity. Friedman decries the hypocrisy and mixed messages of our culture (weโre failures if we donโt act sexy, but weโre sluts if we actually pursue sex; we need to be protected from rapists lurking in bushes, but deserve โwhatever we getโ if we have a drink at a party and wear a skirt), and encourages readers to separate fear from fact, decode the damaging messages all around them, and discover a healthy personal sexuality. Educational and interactive, What You Really Really Want includes revealing quizzes, creative exercises, and reality-based advice about sex and sexuality today. With Friedmanโs informed advice to guide them, readers will build new skills for safely expressing their sexuality with lovers and explore effective ways to talk about tricky issues with family and friendsโand learn how to make the world a little safer for everyone elseโs sexuality along the way.