Preparing for a difficult divorce: Preparing yourself -- Understanding borderline and narcissistic personalities -- Blamers and targets: it's all your fault! -- Managing a blamer with an assertive approach -- Preparing for a court battle with a blamer -- Part 2: Succeeding in family court -- Today's divorce court culture -- Hiring a lawyer who understands -- Working with your lawyer to handle predictable crises -- Gathering evidence about your blamer's private persona -- Working with experts and evaluators -- What to expect from the blamer's attorney -- What to expect at a hearing or trial with a blamer -- Part 3: Succeeding out of court -- Considering alternatives to litigation with a blamer -- Managing the rocky postdivorce.;Splitting is an essential legal and psychological guide for anyone divorcing a รฌpersuasive blamerรฎ: someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder (BPD) or narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). This book is written by Bill Eddy, a family court attorney and therapist, and Randi Kreger, author of the bestselling Stop Walking on Eggshells and founder of the popular website www.bpdcentral.com.