Love Is Not Enough: What It Takes to Make It Work

✍ Scribed by Henry Kellerman Ph.D.

• Publisher: Praeger
• Year: 2009
• Tongue: English
• Leaves: 161
• Category: Library

✦ Synopsis

Love is Not Enough: What It Takes to Make it Work explores why couples fall into the same types of relationship traps time and again and offers sound advice, based on extensive research and real case stories, for recognizing and combating the forces that can sink a promising relationship.

While it is true that opposites can attract, irrevocably opposed personalities and habits cannot sustain a relationship. How can you foresee one partner being the immovable object to the other's irrepressible force? As Love is Not Enough shows, it is all about personality—yours, your potential partner's, and how the two mesh. Thoroughly grounded in the realities of relationships today, the book helps readers recognize and understand interactions among different personality types. Each chapter offers carefully considered wisdom on how to resolve particular differences in a relationship and break through to the kind of awareness and understanding that invariably makes things work.

✦ Table of Contents

Title......Page 4
Copyright......Page 5
Contents......Page 8
Introduction......Page 12
Part One: Your Relationship Preview......Page 16
What Is the Goal of a Good Relationship?......Page 18
Is It Possible That Everyone Marries for the Wrong Reason?......Page 19
Values versus Personality......Page 20
Talking......Page 21
Listening versus Disregard......Page 22
Culture of the Marriage......Page 24
Repair......Page 25
Change in Relationships......Page 26
Rules of Approach and Rejection......Page 27
Partners Take Each Other Very Seriously......Page 28
You Behave toward Your Spouse as You Did toward Your Same-Gender Parent......Page 29
The Good Parent......Page 32
Event versus Process......Page 33
The Algebra of Relationships......Page 34
To Lose, Not to Win......Page 35
Roles......Page 38
Communication: Yes versus No......Page 39
Communication: Yes and No, Again......Page 40
Communication: The Difficult Theme for Men......Page 41
Communication: The Difficult Theme for Women......Page 42
Men and Women: Other Differences......Page 43
Three Fires......Page 46
10-Point Scale for Marriage......Page 47
Personal Life and Professional Life......Page 48
Don't Make It Two against One......Page 49
Two Equals Zero......Page 50
The Romance of Life......Page 52
That Which Initially Attracts You Is That Which Eventually Kills You......Page 53
Crisis and Sex......Page 54
Part Two: You Preview......Page 58
Wishes and Anger......Page 60
What Is the Main Task of Life?......Page 61
Symptoms and Consciousness......Page 62
Aggravation versus Trouble......Page 63
Count......Page 66
Retain Your Individuality......Page 67
The Line......Page 68
Guts......Page 69
Procrastination......Page 70
The World Is a C–......Page 71
Mate Selection Criteria......Page 74
Rescue Missions......Page 75
Let Everyone Have His or Her Own Problems......Page 76
Men Marry Their Fathers; Women Marry Their Mothers......Page 77
To Get Together or Not......Page 78
Posttraumatic Stress......Page 80
With Whom Do You Identify?......Page 81
Emotions......Page 82
The Minds of Specific Emotions......Page 83
Whining......Page 84
Defensiveness......Page 85
Answering Questions or Not Answering Questions......Page 86
Magical Thinking......Page 87
Part Three: Personality Styles Preview......Page 90
The Absence-of-Warmth Type......Page 92
The Orderly Type......Page 96
The Critical Type......Page 102
The Falling-in-Love-Easily Type......Page 106
The Self-Love Type......Page 110
The High-as-a-Kite Type......Page 114
Varieties of the Angry Type......Page 120
The Manipulator Type......Page 125
The Mean/Cruel Type......Page 129
The Clinging Type......Page 132
The Can't-Do-Anything Type......Page 135
The Down-in-the-Dumps Type......Page 138
The Victim Type......Page 142
The Worried Type......Page 146
The Loaded-with-Problems Type......Page 150
This Is the One!......Page 154
The Beginning......Page 155
About the Author......Page 158
Books by the Author......Page 160