I Hate You — Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality

✍ Scribed by Jerold J. Kreisman; Hal Straus

• Publisher: Perigee Books
• Year: 2010
• Tongue: English
• Leaves: 227
• Edition: 2
• Category: Library

✦ Synopsis

A revised and updated edition of the bestselling guide to understanding borderline personality disorder.
After more than two decades as the essential guide to Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), this new edition now reflects the most up- to-date research that has opened doors to the neurobiological, genetic, and developmental roots of the disorder as well as connections between BPD and substance abuse, sexual abuse, Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome, ADHD, and eating disorders.
Both pharmacological and psychotherapeutic advancements point to real hope for success in the treatment and understanding of BPD.
This expanded and revised edition remains as accessible and useful as its predecessor and will reestablish this book as the go-to source for those diagnosed with BPD, their family, friends, and colleagues, as well as professionals and students in the field.

✦ Table of Contents

Cover
Title
Praise
Contents
Copyright
Dedication
Acknowledgements
Preface
Note to Reader
1. The World of the Borderline
Demographic Borders
How Doctors Diagnose Psychiatric Disease
Emotional Hemophilia
Splitting: The Black-and-White World of the Borderline
Stormy Relationships
Job and Workplace Problems
A “Woman’s Illness”?
BPD in Different Age Groups
Socioeconomic Factors
Geographic Borders
Borderline Behavior in Celebrities and Fictional Characters
Advances in Research and Treatment
The Question of Borderline “Pathology”
2. Chaos and Emptiness
Borderline: A Personality Disorder
Comparison to Schizophrenia
Comparison to Affective Disorders (Bipolar and Depressive Disorders)
BPD and ADHD
BPD and Pain
BPD and Somatization Disorder
BPD and Dissociative Disorders
BPD and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
BPD and Associated Personality Disorders
BPD and Substance Abuse
The Anorexic/Bulimic Borderline or the Borderline Anorexic/Bulimic?
BPD and Compulsive Behaviors
Clinical Definition of Borderline Personality Disorder
“Others Act Upon Me, Therefore I Am”
The Relentless Search for Mr./Ms. Right
Who Am I?
The Impulsive Character
Self-Destruction
Radical Mood Shifts
Always Half Empty
Raging Bull
Sometimes I Act Crazy
The Borderline Mosaic
3. Roots of the Borderline Syndrome
Genetic and Neurobiological Roots
Developmental Roots
Object Relations Theory and Separation-Individuation in Infancy
Childhood Conflicts
Adolescent Conflicts
Traumas
Nature Versus Nurture
4. The Borderline Society
The Disintegrating Culture
The Breakdown of Structure: A Fragmented Society
Dread of the Future
The Jungle of Interpersonal Relationships
Shifting Gender Role Patterns
Family and Child-Rearing Patterns
5. Communicating with the Borderline
SET Communication
Borderline Dilemmas
Damned If You Do, and Damned If You Don’t
Feeling Bad About Feeling Bad
The Perennial Victim
Quest for Meaning
Search for Constancy
The Rage of Innocence
The Need for Consistency
6. Coping with the Borderline
Recognizing BPD in Friends and Relations
Coping and Helping
Understanding Your Own Emotions
Special Parenting Problems
Working with the Borderline
Playing with the Borderline
The Maturing Borderline
7. Seeking Therapy
Beginning Treatment
Goals of Therapy
Length of Therapy
How Psychotherapy Works
The Patient-Therapist “Fit”
Therapeutic Approaches
Group Therapies
Family Therapies
Artistic and Expressive Therapies
Hospitalization
8. Specific Psychotherapeutic Approaches
Cognitive and Behavioral Treatments
Psychodynamic Treatments
Comparing Treatments
Other Therapies
Which Therapy Is Best?
9. Medications: The Science and the Promise
Genetics
Medications
Generic Drugs
Split Treatment
Can Borderlines Be Cured?
10. Understanding and Healing
Growing and Changing
The Beginnings of Change: Self-Assessment
Practicing Change
Learning How to Limp
Leaving the Past Behind
Playing the Dealt Hand
Boundary Setting: Establishing an Identity
Building Relationships
Recognizing the Effect of Change on Others
Appendix A - DSM-IV-TR Classifications
Axis I Diagnoses
Axis II Diagnoses of Personality Disorders
Future Diagnostic Definitions
Appendix B - Evolution of the Borderline Syndrome
Freud
Post-Freud Psychoanalytic Writers
Kernberg’s “Borderline Personality Organization” (BPO)
Variable Sense of Reality
Nonspecific Weaknesses in Functioning
Primitive Thinking
Primitive Defense Mechanisms
Pathological Concept of Self
Pathological Concept of Others
Resources
Printed Materials
Websites
Treatment Centers
Notes
Preface
1. The World of the Borderline
2. Chaos and Emptiness
3. Roots of the Borderline Syndrome
4. The Borderline Society
6. Coping with the Borderline
7. Seeking Therapy
8. Specific Psychotherapeutic Approaches
9. Medications: the Science and the Promise
10. Understanding and Healing
Appendix B. Evolution of the Borderline Syndrome
Index
About the Authors